GUIDELINES FOR THE WEDDING RITE



 RESERVATIONS MUST BE MADE AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE or not later than six (6) months BEFORE THE WEDDING.

 

OFFERING

An offering of Php10,000.00 (without aircon) or Php15,000.00 (with aircon) includes the following:

1. Wedding Ceremony within the Holy Mass.

2. Marriage Certificate, Registration Forms and Nuptial Candles

3. Flowers in the Center Nave and the Sactuary

4. Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion, Commentator and Lector

5. Choir or Soloist/ Instrumentalist


REQUIREMENTS

1. Upon arranging, couple is requested to submit UPDATED Baptismal Certificates (issued not later than six months before the wedding), with the specification for MARRIAGE PURPOSES only.

2. To avoid expiration of the Marriage License, apply for the license preferably at your Municipality two months before the wedding. (Note: Marriage License is valid for 120 days only.)

3. Confirmation Certificate (Kumpil) stamped by issuing church "For Marriage Purposes Only."

4. Our Parish Office will issue the following forms:

     a. Banns and Permit forms for the Bride to secure permission from her Parish Priest to marry outside of her parish. (Given on the day of interview).

         b. The Banns should be posted in the bride's parish church for three (3) consecutive Sundays.

     c. The Banns for the groom announcing his forthcoming marriage should be posted in his parish church for three (3) consecutive Sundays.

5. Individual 2x2 pictures of the Bride and Groom upon reservation.

6. Submission of the following at least one month before the scheduled wedding date:

     For Catholics:

     a. Birth Certificates of Bride and GroomMarriage License (released 15 days from date of request from the Municipal/City Hall)

     b. Baptismal Certificates of Bride and Groom (marked “For Marriage Purposes”, issued six months before the date of marriage)

     c. Confirmation Certificate (marked "For Marriage Purposes", issued six months before the date of marriage

     d. Certificate of Freedom to Marry from the respective parishes of the bride and groom duly signed by their parish priest

     e  Certificate of No Marriage from NSO

     f. Full names of principal sponsors

     g. Complete payment of the wedding fees

    For Non-Catholic Party:

     a. Birth Certificate

    b. Baptismal Certificate or Certificate of Religious Affiliation

    c. Certification of Freedom to Marry from pastor or religious leader or Affidavit of Free Status to Marry to be executed before a Catholic Parish Priest by a credible person who has known the party personally for at least five (5) years.  

     d. Certificate of No Marriage from the NSO.

     e. Petition for Permission for the Celebration of Mixed Marriage

     f. Permission for the Celebration of Mixed Marriage  issued by the Chancery.

 

     For the non-Christian Party Only:

     a.  Petition for Dispensation from the Impediment of Disparity of Worship.

     b.  Decree of Dispensation from the Impediment of Disparity of Worship, issued by the Chancery.

     c.  Birth Certificate.

     d.  Certificate of Religious Affiliation

     e.  Certificate of Freedom to Marry issued by pastor or minister or Affidavit of Free Status to Marry to be executed before a Catholic Parish Priest by any credible person who has known the party personally for at least five (5) years.

     f.  Certificate of No Marriage from NSO.

   g.  Clearance from the Judicial Vicar.

   h.  Certificate of Freedom to Contract Marriage from the Catholic Bishop of the place of origin.

    i.  Photocopy of Passport

    j.  If Documents are in native language of the foreigner party, submit certified correct translation

    k.  Affidavit of Free Status to Marry executed before a Catholic Parish Priest

 

   Other Requirements for Both Parties:

     a.  Valid Marriage License issued by Local Civil Register or Civil Marriage Contract  (if civilly married) or Joint Affidavit between the parties who have lived together as husband and wife for at least five (5) years.

     b.  Certificate of Attendance of Pre-Cana Seminar and/or Counselling approved by the Catholic Church

 

    Other Requirements, if previously Married:

     a.  Clearance from Judicial Vicar

     b.  Marriage Contract of previous Marriage

     c.  Death Certificate of Deceased Spouse (of previous marriage)

     d.  Certificate of Finality of the Civil Declaration of Nullify of Marriage (for a Filipino)

     e.  Decree of Finality of Civil Divorce (for foreigners)

     f.  Declaration of Nulligy of Previous Marriage by a competent Catholic Church Authority

 


APPOINTMENTS

PUNCTUALITY IS OF UTMOST IMPORTANCE to avoid cancellation of appointment. The dates and time of the following shall be given ahead of time:

     1. Canonical Interview
     2. Marriage Counseling
     3. Marriage Preparation Seminar  (Pre-Cana, Catechism, Natural Family Planning)
     4. Confession
     5. Rehearsal (as requested)

REGULATIONS

1. Attendance during the Canonical interview and Marriage Counseling on the appointed date are ESSENTIAL. Please find time to attend these sessions.

2. Guest Priest who is invited to solemnize the wedding, must present his "celebret" (i.e. A document that guarantees his good standing in his diocese/archdiocese) and a photocopy of the Certificate of Renewal of Registration and Authority to Solemnize Marriage (CRASM).

3. Parish will only give Marriage Application Form to applicants 27 years old and above.

4. The Ceremony should start exactly at the scheduled time (Please refer to no. 11.)

5. For the convenience of all, ring and coin bearers and flower girls should be at least five (5) years old.

6. The Certificate of Marriage will be given right after the wedding.

7. Showering of flowers, rice, confetti, etc. is not allowed inside and outside the church.

8. The parish’s Wedding Ministry, not wedding coordinators, will do the arrangements in the parish church.

9. Proper church decorum is strictly enforced. Ladies (bride, mothers, bridal entourage, sponsors, guests, etc.) are expected to dress properly and decently for church. Ladies wearing dresses with plunging/revealing necklines or backless attires will not be allowed to enter the church. Likewise, gentlemen should wear the proper church attire. (No "sandos" no slippers, no torn jeans, etc.)

10. To avoid embarrassing situations, it is the responsibility of the bride and groom to inform their entourage, sponsors, guests, ahead of time, of the dress code. (Please refer to no. 9)

11. The church reserves the right to refuse entry/ request departure from the church premises anyone who is drunk, misbehaving during the rite, or is under the influence of drugs at any time.


IMPORTANT LITURGICAL CONSIDERATIONS

 
1.   The text of the Catholic Marriage Rites in the Dioceses of the Philippines (English and Filipino), as approved by the Sacred Congregation for Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments, are normative in the Diocese of Paranaque.

2.   Commercial wedding coordinators and/or photographers have no jurisdiction in determining the music, what happens ritually, or the use of the worship space. The rites and their execution are determined by the norms contained in the Rite of Marriage, as approved by the Sacred Congregation for Worship and the Disciplines of the Sacraments, and are the responsibility of the local Ordinary.

3.   Catechesis for marriage should include the teachings on marriage and the family, on the sacrament itself and its rites, prayers, and readings. This would be an appropriate time to discuss the kind of music acceptable for use at a sacramental rite.

4.   Secular music is not acceptable before, during or after the Rite within the sacred space. It should be reserved for other settings during the wedding festivities (reception, etc).

5.   The music customarily used at the Sunday Eucharist is illustrative of the kind of music appropriate for the wedding rites. A list of hymns suitable for the Rite of Marriage may be found in the succeeding pages.

6.   If the marriage is celebrated on a Sunday or solemnity, the Mass of the day is used with the nuptial blessing and the special final blessing  according to circumstances. Adequate catechesis must be given beforehand to the assembly as well as the wedding party to assure that the prayerful quality and precedence of the Sunday Eucharist remains intact.

7.   When the marriage is celebrated during Advent or Lent or other days of penance, the couple is advised to take into consideration the special nature of these liturgical seasons. Hence, music and floral arrangement should be subdued. Weddings/Renewal of Vows anytime during the 5th and 6th Weeks in Lent must consider the liturgical practice of shrouded images in the sanctuary.

8.   The music chosen should be accessible to the majority of those present and allow “full, active and conscious participation”.

9.   Enhancing the liturgical setting by the use of appropriate flowers and floral arrangements is to be encouraged, but this, too, should be done in keeping with the nature of the setting as liturgical space and with full awareness and respect for the liturgical season. One should always be guided by the principle of noble simplicity in liturgical space.

10. Video taping and picture taking should also be done in the spirit of the ceremony as a sacramental rite and should be mindful of the atmosphere of prayer surrounding these rites. It must not be intrusive or take away from the spirit of reverence and worship.

11. Recorded music may not be used before, during or after the liturgical celebration.

12. Since the Eucharist is the source and center of unity, the use of the unity candle should be downplayed. It is not a part of the Catholic Rite of Marriage, but it could be used effectively at the reception.

13. No standees of the couple are allowed inside the church. These are best placed at the reception venue.


THE WEDDING MASS

      Weddings are special occasions. For weddings that are scheduled outside solemnities, readings may be taken from any of the following with the themes:

     Old Testament Readings (and Psalm)

1.  Male and female he created them  (Genesis 1:26-28.31)

2.  They become one flesh (Genesis 2:18-24)

3.  Isaac took Rebekah and he loved her. So he was comforted after his mother’s death (Genesis 24:48-51.58-67)

4.  May the Lord of heaven, my child, guide and prosper you and grant you mercy and peace (Tobit 7:6-14)

5.  Grant that we may grow old together (Tobit 8:4-8)

6.  Love is strong as death (Song of Songs 2:8-10.14.16; 8:6-7)

7.  Like the sun rising is the beauty of a good wife in her well-ordered home (Sirach 26:1-4.13-16)

8.  I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah (Jeremiah 31:31-34) 

9. Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:1.5-9)

10.  A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised  (Proverbs 31:10-13.19-20.30-31)

   

     New Testament Readings

1.   Who will separate us from the love of Christ? (Romans 8:31-35.37-39)

2.   Present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God (Romans 12:1-2.9-18)

3.   Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:13-15.17-20)

4.   If I do not have love, I gain nothing (1 Corinthians 12:31-13:8)

5.   This is a great mystery, and I am applying it to Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:2.21-33)

6.   Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony (Colossians 3:12-17)

7.   All of you, have unity of spirit, sympathy, love for one another (1Peter 3:1-9)

8.   Let us love in truth and action (1 John 3:18-24)

9.   God is love (1 John 4:7-12)

10. May God grant you to live in harmony with one another (Romans 15:1b-3a.5-7.13)

11. Maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace (Ephesians 4:1-6)

12. The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts. (Philippians 4:4-9)

13. Let marriage be held in honor by all (Hebrews 13:1-4a.5-6b)


      Gospel Readings

1.   Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven (Matthew 5:1-12)

2.   You are the light of the world (Matthew 5:13-16)

3.   He built his house on rock (Matthew 7:21.24-29)

4.   What God has joined together, let no one separate (Matthew 19:3-6)

5.   This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it (Matthew 22:35-40)

6.   They are no longer two, but one flesh (Mark 10:6-9)

7.   Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee (John 2:1-11)

8.   Abide in my love (John 15:9-12)

9.   This is my commandment, that you love one another (John 15:12-16)

10. That they may become completely one (John 17:20-26)

 

  • If the wedding takes place during a solemnity, the readings of the day are used.
  • One or two readings may be used for the Mass. Only commissioned parish lectors are allowed to proclaim the Word.  Should you wish to have friends or relatives who are commissioned lectors from other parishes/dioceses proclaim the readings, please request them to secure a letter of recommendation from their parish priest.  This must be shown to our parish secretary early on.
  • Readings are read from the Lectionary, not from any prepared missalette. The Responsorial Psalm is normally sung or may be read.  If it is to be sung, please inform our parish secretary so necessary arrangements may be done with any of our psalmists.
  • Couples are not allowed to compose their vows. The official text should be used. Composed vows may be read as Invocation during the wedding reception.
  • The parish will provide a copy of the Prayer of the Faithful. This will include the general intentions: for the whole Church, for the civil leaders, for the local community and its needs, and for the couple who have just been married, for the dead relatives. Normally there are about five intentions, and the intentions for the couple will center on the idea of marriage, e.g. asking help for all married couples, for the protection of this marriage, for others preparing for marriage, for deceased relatives of the couple or for those who are absent on this happy occasion.
  • The parish has prepared powerpoint slides for Wedding Masses. You may request for this through our parish secretary. You however, will have to assign a friend or a relative to flash these slides.
  • Weddings during the seasons of Advent and Lent should consider the nature of the said seasons. Flowers should be subdued. No Wedding Rite is celebrated during the Sacred Paschal Triduum.
  • A floral offering to the Blessed Mother may be done after the Rite. Should you consider this, please inform our parish secretary beforehand so necessary arrangements may be done with the choir/soloist and the Mother Butler Guild.
  • Should you prepare a missalette, please have this reviewed and approved by the coordinator of the parish Commission on Liturgy and Popular Religiosity before printing. Email at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.


MUSIC IN WEDDING LITURGY

The Church keeps no official list of “approved” wedding music, but we hope to offer these guidelines that will help you choose music that is liturgically correct, expresses your faith as couple and supports the text as an expression of Christian faith.

Music chosen for a wedding ceremony must encourage those in attendance into full, conscious and active participation in the wedding liturgy.

 There are (3) judgments to consider when choosing music:

 1. Musical Judgment

Even if the music is contemporary, traditional, classical or instrumental, is the song musically sound? Can it assist the assembly to express and share the gift of faith that you have as a couple? Is the music beautiful, according to your culture and taste? To get an idea of what the music will sound like, listen to the list of sample songs on I-tunes or youtube, or other comparable music website.

The voices and instruments of the gathered assembly should not be replaced by recorded music before, during, or after the liturgical celebration.

2. Liturgical Judgment

Is the text of the music consistent with the nature of the liturgy? Is the text of the music prayerful? Does it help the assembly to pray and to give thanks to God for your love?

Couples are encouraged to choose religious songs.Music usually sung at Sunday Mass is appropriate for a wedding liturgy. Popular songs or rock songs, Broadway, film music, top 40 songs, even if they have a spiritual theme, are usually not appropriate for liturgy.

3. Pastoral Judgment

Does the music allow full, active and conscious participation of the assembly? We need you to be role models for the wedding party. Help wedding guests be participants, not spectators. Choose songs and acclamations that may be familiar to most of your guests, and will assist them to actively participate in sung prayer. Singing is one of the most powerful ways your family and friends can show their support and love for you and your spouse, “Sing once, pray twice”

At MMGC, we have musicians and singers. The keyboard and guitar are available. Psalmists are likewise available. A psalmist sings the verses of the Responsorial Psalm, and the assembly sings the refrain. The psalmist is not a “soloist”, though he/she may sing a sacred song during the liturgy or as part of the prelude music.

SELECTING YOUR MUSIC

All music is to be approved by the Mary, Mother of Good Counsel Parish Music Ministry Coordinator. The popular “Here Comes the Bride” and “Wedding March” do not belong in a Catholic wedding liturgy.

Here are the reasons:
      a. The music originated from theatrical repertoire
      b. It portrays marriage in a way that differs from the Church.
      c. The impression focuses on the bride alone.

If you are at all curious if a song may be appropriate ask yourself, “Will this song help us, our family and friends, to lift up our hearts in prayer?”

WHEN SHALL WE SING?

Here is the list of songs that MAY BE used during the wedding liturgy. This by no means is a complete list. If you have questions about the appropriateness of any music you may suggest, please contact the MMGC Parish Music Ministry Coordinator through his email address (This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.). Most of these songs can be listened to on several music web sites for FREE.

The Directors of Liturgy of the Philippines has issued a circular stating, “It is not permissible to sing secular love songs within the liturgy. A sacred song with the theme of love may be sung as the Song of Praise after the Rite of Marriage or during Communion, if marriage is celebrated within Mass. Popular love songs may be sung only after the celebration.”


Because of the nature of the Wedding Celebration, and because of the joy of the occasion, it is recommended that the assembly join in singing:

    a. Gathering Hymn (optional)
    b. Responsorial Psalm
    c. Gospel Acclamation

 

If you are planning a full Mass, you will choose all of the choices above, plus

    d. Preparation of gifts, sung or instrumental
    e. Sanctus (Holy Holy,Holy )
    f. Memorial acclamation,
    g. Great Amen,
    h. Lord’s Prayer
    i. Lamb of God
    j. Communion Hymn

 

PROCESSIONAL/RECESSIONAL MUSIC

It is preferable to have only one processional song which promotes unity with the bridal party. If you want more than one processional song, please consult the Music Coordinator
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1. Air (from the Water Music)                   Handel

2. Canon in D                                           Pachelbel

3. Hornpipe (from Water Music)               Handel

4. LaRejouissance                                    Handel

5. May It Be                                              Enya

6. Ode to Joy                                            Beethoven

7. Prelude from Te Deum                         Charpentier

8. Prince of Denmark March                    Clarke

9. Rondeau                                               Mouret

10. Trumpet Tune                                     Purcell

 

GATHERING/ENTRANCE SONG

Once the bridal party has completed the processional, the couple may choose to sing a gathering song, to unite the assembly in prayer. While a gathering song isn’t required, it acts as a unifying agent for the assembly.

1.   All Are Welcome                                 Haugen

2.   All Creatures of our God and King

3.   Gather Us In                                       Haugen

4.   Gather Your People                            Hurd

5.   Glory and Praise

6.   Hear Us Now, Our God and Father

7.   Joyful, Joyful We Adore You

8.   Love Divine, All Love’s Excelling

9.   Now Thank We All Our God

10. Praise to the Lord

11. This Day Was Made by the Lord        Walker

12. When Love is Found                          Haas

13. Where Love is Found                        Schutte

14. Where There Is Love                         Haas

 

RESPONSORIAL PSALM

You may wish to have the psalm recited or sung. If your preference is for a sung psalm, you will need a psalmist. The psalmist sings the refrain, and the assembly repeats the refrain and the psalmist sings the verses It is important that the text be a psalm; a solo or other sacred song cannot be used.

1. Psalm 33: The Earth Is Full of the Goodness

2. Psalm 34: Taste and See

3. Psalm 103: The Lord is Kind and Merciful

4. Psalm 128: Blest Are Those who Love You

5. Psalm 145: Our God is Compassion

6. Psalm 148: Let All Praise the Name

 

GOSPEL ACCLAMATION

The gospel acclamation should always be sung. Any of the Gospel acclamations sung on Sunday are appropriate.

 

PREPARATION OF GIFTS

If you are having a full Mass, an instrumental song may be played or a short song for the Offertory (and the procession) may be used:

1.   Alay sa Diyos                                        Francisco, SJ

2.   Gifts for our Lord                                   Cohen

3.   Isang Alay                                             Marcelo

4.   Kapuri-puri ang Poong Maykapal         Cayabyab

5.   Pasasalamat ng Puso                           Consolacion

6.   Sumasamo Kami                                  Judan

7.   The Seed                                              Mercelo

8.   Unang Alay                                           Magnaye

9.   We Bring To You, Father                       Rodriguez/Velasco

Please arrange with the Parish Secretary if you intend to have a procession of gifts.  This will have to be coordinated with our Ministry of Ushers, Greeters and Collectors.

 

COMMUNION SONG

1.   Anima Christi                                          Arboleda

2.   Awit ng Paghahangad                            Cenzon, SJ

3.   Bread of Life                                           Fisher

4.   Gift of Finest Wheat                                Kreutz

5.   Here I Am                                               Schutte

6.   Here in this Place                                   Haas

7.   Hidden God                                            Francisco, SJ

8.   I Have Loved You                                   Joncas

9.   One Bread, One Body                            Foley

10. On Eagle’s Wings                                   Joncas

11. Panis Angelicus                                      Franck

12. Prayer of St Francis                                Pote

13. Sa Yo Lamang                                        Francisco, SJ

14. Tanging Yaman                                       Francisco SJ

15. You are Mine                                           Haas

 

CONTRACT SIGNING/ WEDDING PICTORIAL

Since the contract signing and the pictorial take place in the church, songs should also reflect the mystery being celebrated. Again, popular love songs that have no reference to marriage and God are better sang during the wedding reception. Below are recommended songs during this rite:

 

1.   Cherish the Treasure                              Green

2.   Ikaw                                                        Canseco

3.   Ikaw Lamang

4.   I Will Be Here                                          Chapman

5.   I’ve Dreamed of You                                Lovland/Calloway

6.   Light of a Million Mornings                       Hayes

7.   Love is the Answer                                  Hannissian

8.   One Hand, One Heart                              Bernstein

9.   Panunumpa                                             Gonzalez, SJ

10. Song of Ruth                                            Norbert

11. The Prayer                                                Foster/Sager/Testa/Renis

12. This is the Day Wedding Song

13. To Have and To Hold                                Belamide

14. Two Words                                               Ocampo

15. When God Made You

We hope that we have clarified the requirements and liturgical norms that we follow at MMGC Parish. We will appreciate any query or points of clarification from you.

Thank you very much.

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